Support for Carers
Supporting a loved one with an eating disorder can be challenging and distressing at times. If you are caring for someone with an eating disorder, it is very important that you also take care of yourself. This will help to prevent you from becoming “burnt out” by the eating disorder and ultimately help to preserve a positive relationship with your loved one. What constitutes “self-care” is entirely up to you. We have included some suggestions below which other carers have found to be helpful.
It is incredibly important to schedule time for yourself into your week. As an individual you will still have your own needs, and these may be heightened when caring for someone with an eating disorder. You may need more time to have fun or focus on the things you enjoy doing, more time to relax and nurture yourself, or more time to get support and companionship from your partner, friends or family. Try writing your ideas down and then schedule this time into each day or week.
Consider attending a carer support group. Sometimes it can be helpful to connect with others who are experiencing (or have experienced) similar challenges to you and your family. This can help to reduce feelings of isolation and provides the opportunity to share ideas and learn from others’ experiences in a supportive environment. The London Centre offers a carer support group where up to 6 individuals (or couples) can come together to gain support from each other, as well as guidance from our Occupational Therapist, Dietitian or Family Therapist. Please contact our team PA (Kerry) if you would like more information about the next carer support group.
Consider seeing a mental health professional either individually, as a couple or as a family. Sometimes having your own space to process and talk about what you are experiencing can really help you and your family to cope with the impact of having a loved one with an eating disorder.
Enlist the support of close others. Caring for someone with an eating disorder can take its toll. Check in with your partner, friends and/or extended family on a regular basis and remember to ask for support when you need it.
Remember the importance of self-compassion. Be kind to yourself (not critical of yourself) when you are having a difficult time or when you make a mistake. Remember, being harsh to yourself will not benefit you or the person you are caring for.